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(Hugs) Maybe he'll find someone else and just go. [Solo]
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2001-10-23 08:58:10 |
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Good luck with everything.. [QueensOwnTalia]
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2001-10-22 10:54:19 |
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Talking to kids about tragedy
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dear Xan, i read this article that lots of people leave their healthy habit since the september 11 tragedy. suddenly i remembered about you. i know it's been a long time, but i hope you still persevere with your healthy habit :) take care ok? thank you for dropping by my diary (=^_^=) [Nda]
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2001-10-10 14:08:31 |
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Talking to kids about tragedy
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::) [ROSEOFTEXAS]
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2001-10-07 10:44:08 |
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~hugs~ [sweet peas]
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2001-10-07 01:06:34 |
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positive outlook on a tragic situation!
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WOW....... that's some interesting facts. ~hugs~ [sweet peas]
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2001-10-04 08:47:50 |
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positive outlook on a tragic situation!
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GOOD ENTRY!!~ [ROSEOFTEXAS]
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2001-10-03 09:53:01 |
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SOUNDS GOOD!!~ [ROSEOFTEXAS]
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2001-10-02 18:24:34 |
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:) [ROSEOFTEXAS]
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2001-10-02 18:23:26 |
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If its an indoor pool, keep the door to the pool room locked unless you are in there with them. Not sure if its an outdoor one. [QueensOwnTalia]
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2001-10-01 16:12:57 |
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Go for it! :) [nda]
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2001-09-29 07:39:44 |
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ryn. Yes I am the classic study of the second born child with all the negative hang ups.:)Thanks for dropping in. I am finding I am spending so much time with notes entries are starting to suffer. [hippygidget]
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2001-09-26 02:22:36 |
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ITS A JOB TRYING TO KEEP UP WITH ALL THESE DIARIES [ROSEOFTEXAS]
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2001-09-24 20:51:57 |
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I noticed you stopped writing and might I add my lil sis the writing is important for you huggles [Spiritlady]
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2001-09-24 16:18:29 |
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Do you write under the name Xanadu in OD? Thanks for popping by my diary. (I also write in OD as Mystic Shadow). [Mystic Shadow]
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2001-09-24 11:40:40 |
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oops, the above comment was from me. [sweet peas]
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2001-09-24 08:02:47 |
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huggles we know what I said before and out of body experience at times of near death or dreadful trauma. [Spiritlady]
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2001-09-23 21:27:04 |
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hugs [Spiritlady]
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2001-09-23 21:25:50 |
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Whenever we have trauma our spirit leaves our body and we have an out of body experience. I would guess you were near death and that is why you were watching from above. Often people talk of this when they have near death but actually live and can recall this experience. [Spiritlady]
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2001-09-23 21:24:04 |
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THIS IS NICE [ROSEOFTEXAS]
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2001-09-23 20:47:58 |
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:) [ROSEOFTEXAS]
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2001-09-23 20:45:33 |
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Hm. Previous life memory? [Songbird40]
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2001-09-23 18:29:13 |
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YOU DONT HAVE TO LISTEN TO WHAT OTHER SAY, IF ITS IN A NEGATIVE WAY. HAVE A GOOD ONE [ROSEOFTEXAS]
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2001-09-23 14:11:33 |
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little bit didn't like his toddler bed. wouldn't sleep in it. finally got him a big boy bed and he was as happy as a pig in a mud hole! [gray tabby]
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2001-09-23 13:09:21 |
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I SURE DONT LIKE IT WHEN ITS THAT DARK. HERE WHERE I LIVE,YIKES!!!! [ROSEOFTEXAS]
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2001-09-23 11:23:54 |
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can't see that it's wrong for an aunt to take a picture of a neice she hasn't seen in a long time. it's sad she was allowed to speak with you for a few minutes. [gray tabby]
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2001-09-23 08:19:30 |
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I cannot see how you can be prosecuted for that???? [Spiritlady]
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2001-09-23 04:57:04 |
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WE USED TO HAVE SO MUCH FUN IN THE WINTERTIME TOO. I HAVE AOT OF FAMILY IN OHIO. YOU'VE BEEN HERE FOR A WHILE [ROSEOFTEXAS]
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2001-09-22 22:07:21 |
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I was my name is precious at OD but now the OD name is ~sojourner~ [melancholy_dreamer]
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2001-09-22 22:01:35 |
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There's one that's called deardiary.net that lets you use badckgrounds and everything. I have a diary there as well as here and diaryland and OD. ~laughing~ I really need to get a life. [melancholy_dreamer]
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2001-09-22 19:40:33 |
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Hi ~R!:) You know what? I could not get into your OD diary to even read an entry, not for the longest time...and now OD is broken. I didn't want you to think I didn't care anymore. I was so happy to see you here! Yeah! Okay, now I can read what all you have in here~kinda backwards I know-leave a note and Then read. :Þ *hugs* [DaisyPetals]
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2001-09-22 19:14:33 |
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I went to Glazed and he is here but I did not read his entries about the hospital. [Spiritlady]
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2001-09-22 16:26:54 |
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Is that you itsme2. Do you realise who i am chuckles from o/d. nectar [Spiritlady]
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2001-09-22 15:29:49 |
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Hi from a fellow Floridian! We got the tropical storm too. Wiped out a few trees but no real damage thank goodness. I like the icecicle story...poor thing getting conked on the head like that! :) [Songbird40]
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2001-09-22 15:14:46 |
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from the number of entries you have, i'd guess you've been here a while. i just don't trust o/d to stay up and running. since i feel a need to write in a journal, i'll be where i'm feeling safe that my words won't disappear. i've been finding a lot of o/der's here today. i'm getting quite a list of favs already. mostly from o/d. [gray tabby]
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2001-09-22 14:21:45 |
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Dear sweet friend, do not worry about deleted coments, your true friends write the truth and there will always be JERKS who write foolish. do not let it bother you. YOu and I know what kind of person you are. just stay as sweet and loving as you are and let your mdd family "who loves you" answer you back. Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-09-22 10:52:52 |
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www.LiveJournal.com There you can stop anonymous notes, edit and delete entries. I have been writing there when OD has been down. I find it better than MDD. If you want to join let me know and I will send you a code to be able to write there [Obelisk]
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2001-09-22 09:56:47 |
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When you feel this way the best thing you can do for you is to write those feelings out of your system [Spiritlady]
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2001-09-22 02:30:56 |
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I understand this entry and every word you speak and i feel many people all over the world are feeling this way...wondering where these radicals will strike next. I think that bloody carnage changed the world forever. I too read that entry about the missing mother. I take it you are from o/d. [Spiritlady]
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2001-09-22 02:29:10 |
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HEY STRANGER!!! SO GLAD WE GOT BACK IN TOUCH. GOSH, IM GONNA NEED TO KEEP A NOTEPAD, TO KEEP UP WITH EVERYONE.BETWEEN THE DIFFERENT DIARIES AND THE COMMZERO CLUB, SSSHHH!! ILL NEED TO WRITE IT DOWN. I DONT MIND THOUGH, I JUST DONT WANT TA LOSE TOUCH. [ROSEOFTEXAS]
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2001-09-21 23:34:31 |
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Whatever happens the free world will face it together! America is the icon of liberty. It can't be attacked like this again and there's a lot of countries ready to fight to see this doesn't happen again to you, to us, to freedom. (Hugs) You and your country are not alone. They talk about a "holy war" and it is - for us! [Solo]
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2001-09-21 23:20:37 |
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(Hugs) If you are afraid then face it, name it, see if it's real and then you'll know what to do with it :) [Solo]
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2001-09-20 14:03:18 |
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Hey friend, At least you are still here, that is all that matters. love you friend and take it EASY on yourself. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-09-20 13:24:04 |
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sending you a hug [sweet peas]
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2001-09-19 21:50:41 |
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Hang in there... [QueensOwnTalia]
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2001-09-18 21:46:22 |
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WOW........ what happened....? (hope I'm not being to nosey, but just curious as to what happened that you had no electricity and water)... ~hugs~ [sweet peas]
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2001-09-18 01:30:28 |
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"We have nothing to fear, but fear itself." [crueldesire]
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2001-09-13 16:26:30 |
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~hugs~ [sweet peas]
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2001-09-12 20:39:13 |
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Visit my diary,I was there when one of the towers fell almost on ME' [Sweet 16]
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2001-09-12 16:48:13 |
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sending you hugs.... [sweet peas]
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2001-07-28 09:37:15 |
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If his mum never wanted him it's no wonder Chance has anger problems but it sounds like you and your daughter have got things under control. I hope nothing more goes wrong. Glad to hear Chance has settled down. A lot of the reason for that is due to you letting him see there's a line he must not cross :) [Solo]
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2001-07-10 00:56:16 |
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I hate it when people act selfishly. good luck with everything :( [QueensOwnTalia]
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2001-07-09 01:18:41 |
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Okay young lady where are you? It has been to long. Your faithful readers misses you. Let it out sweetie do not bottled it up in side or you soon will be in the hospital for depression. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-07-07 11:04:51 |
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I'm back and praying for you Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-07-03 19:47:45 |
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Keeping you in my prayers (Hugs) [Solo]
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2001-06-24 23:46:23 |
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luckily I get my drugs from the VA, but I will pass this info on. [sirreal785]
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2001-06-03 06:29:58 |
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I'm truly frightened of the world we live in today. My prayers are with you. [TigerLady]
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2001-06-01 23:33:08 |
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Hey woman, I'm gonna let my kids speak for them selves. John is first: well I feel csb can provide alot of help and be a good source of help if your kids need help.BUT if you or your family is in no need for them.then they should leave you alone!they dont.let me tell you i was a runaway for three years from 15 up till 18 not a cool way for a teen to grow up.i hope the young kids are not put in a place wear they have to do that.all i can say is that summit co. csb has a lot of kids who need them ,i know a lot of them who dont theres nothing they can do but run. i had good reasons to run form 2 many of homes every one really.thats really all i can say to put it in a quick way .i dont like to talk or think about my past with csb.it was like sittin in jail for three years. Here's Brian: well they suck and the weird part is they had no reason to take us at all.that was the worst place ever, i seen staff hit the kids and kids hit the staff, it's crazy and i dont recomened any one puttin they're kids there~ Now Chris: well i got bet up alot like a day be for my ear surgery i got blassted in my haed and eating rotten food no babdy did nothing about it like jail and i wanted to go home bot we only got to see are mom&dad 2 times ah month it was hard like whan we did work around the place me and my bros. would work but all the other bad kids would sit on thar ass it was the hardtis thing i ever have to go throw Now Mrs SirReal: We have dealt with Childrens Services not only once but twice. The first time our boys were young and we Voluntarily put them into there custody so we could get help for our problems. They were to be in their custody for 30 days while we got help. They ended up the in the emergency room of Childrens Hospital, beaten by the foster mother. We got custody back right away, but when we tried to press charges against this monster who did this, the records mysteriously disappeared. There was nothing we could do. A lawyer told us it would do us no good to try and sue CSB. The second time we moved back from Florida and had no permanent address of our own but a place to stay and the kids had food, and were in school. For 2 years those boys were put into foster homes with child molesters, drug addicts, or in "their" residence where they were terrified and threatened by other kids and staff. I really feel bad for you and wish you all the luck in the world. Even though I dont know you, I know the pain the the torment that you are going through. My prayers are with you and your grandkids. And Me: My kids are so afraid to even think about the torture they went through. John is the one who was sexually abused in a foster home. He won't talk about it. I'm really concerned about him. I've tried to share in my own way the feelings I have about cildren's services. The new Nazi's! I pray to what the hell ever that they get exposed. We all love you and the kids. I'm with you. Make that WE are with you. [sirreal785]
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In a nutshell, they took my kids and they were placed with a man who got them drunk and sexually abused them. They would not prosecute this guy because the public would find out. They even told me it was too political to prosecute. The entire state swept it under the rug. Even the newspaper! We are talking about a very powerful institution. If I didn't have first hand knowledge, I would be skeptical of a story like mine and yours. The general public is just not aware. I've been there Xan. It's a bummer. [sirreal785]
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Bleh. I have heard many horror stories of child protective services. Melissa shares my birthday tho thats kind of neat. *smile* [QueensOwnTalia]
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2001-05-31 11:52:31 |
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Words fail me :( (HUGS!!) [Solo]
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2001-05-31 11:04:20 |
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sending you hugs [sweet peas]
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2001-05-27 22:42:36 |
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We've talked about this before. Here they call it CSB. I consider them the new Nazis. They have way too much power and are accountable to no one. What started out as a good idea became a political and financial nightmare. You're not alone Xan. A lot of people have tasted that poison. Hang Tough! ~~ [sirreal785]
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(Hugs) You're doing great girl. The kids are lucky to have you in there batting for them :) [Solo]
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2001-05-27 04:57:56 |
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Sirreal has a good point. Sounds like Chance is no way going to work on this! The phone thing is bullshit and he's unlikely to change as long as he's in the house with Connie under his control. One thing though - make sure he knows without a shadow of a doubt that you will charge him with assault and push the charge all the way if he lays a finger on you. It might keep his temper in check. [Solo]
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Do you see a therapist. If not I would highly suggest you get some professional advice on how YOU should react to this situation. In a group of people are that living together, you'd be surprised how one person changing can effect the whole group. [sirreal785]
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Oh well done! You're right, Chance has to want to change but maybe some of the stuff will sink in even if he doesn't - if he can be forced to go to ALL the sessions there's a better chance the therapist will be able to reach him and parenting classes are a GREAT idea - he's less likely to feel picked on if Connie joins him in the push to change, grow, improve :) You're a genius girl! [Solo]
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I sure hope in helps him. It can't hurt. But you're right. It would be a great help if he wanted it for himself. You heard that old saying, "you can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink." Well maybe you can make him thirsty. Praying for you Xan. [sirreal785]
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Maybe he will go for his mom and then learn something in there, it could not hurt. Proud of you for trying, you are a strong person. Have a great weekend!! Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-05-25 17:25:56 |
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I've got my fingers, toes and eyes crossed for you. [sirreal785]
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2001-05-25 15:54:11 |
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Wow... thats wisdom! [Sprite]
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2001-05-25 05:44:27 |
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Wonderful story. How many times I hear myself scream Stop! Only to realize after the difficulty that I become a better, wiser person. Thanks for sharing this! [golfecho]
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2001-05-24 23:00:33 |
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Makes you think! Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-05-24 19:02:28 |
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That is precisely how I would describe my life :) [Solo]
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2001-05-24 10:00:37 |
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We are trained to make certain a problem is NOT physical before we try to treat the person - this sounds like your two docs want to do it the other way around! I hope you can get this checked out! [Solo]
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thats too bad. ive been getting dizzy sometimes and my dr said that its normal. but its kinda scary because everything gets blurry and really confusing. i dont like it at all. well come visit my diary sometime and maybe we can talk. c yaz, missy [WiCCeNGiRl]
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2001-05-23 20:17:00 |
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Sweetheart, Please take care of yourself, I need you around. Get some rest. If I was there I would give you a big hug. Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-05-23 15:43:28 |
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No one is "normal". Everyone has aspects of themselves they don't care for, everyone has difficulties and obstacles.. some burdened with more then others.. they are surpassable it just takes time. Hang in there and keep working on yourself. [QueensOwnTalia]
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Lady, you better start phuking putting yourself first! You are causing yourself undue stress, because you won't let go and let life happen. Babe, you can't control it, life is happening. Just roll with it, you can't fight it and win. You can fight it, but you can't change it. Please let go, and let god. You're my cyber-buddy, and I hate to see you hurt! ~~ [sirreal785]
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*hugs* I hope I didn't sound like I was jumping down your throat the other day... I'm glad you answered me... You should definately be looking after yourself before you even consider catching up on anyones diary. I agree with what Solo said. Don't be afraid to stand up for you, or your family if you feel you need to, whether the boys are there or not. *hugs* [Sprite]
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2001-05-21 09:49:11 |
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hope you're feeling better soon... ~hugs~ [sweet peas]
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2001-05-21 01:37:54 |
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Something about Chance's story doesn't sound right to me either and don't stress about reading other diaries - do what you need to do and take care of yourself! [Solo]
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2001-05-21 01:20:07 |
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Take your time and get better! [sirreal785]
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2001-05-20 17:50:07 |
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Hey there friend, I told you to TAKE CARE don't you listen, I care. NOW> Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-05-20 17:03:14 |
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I agre with Solo. Here's my two cents, food for thought: Every addicted person has an enabler. Make sure you don't fall into that catagory, all though an enabler doesn't realize what they do to enable the addicted person. In other words, take care of yourself first. (ok 2 cents turned into a nickle) ~~ [sirreal785]
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I'm so glad to hear your daughter stood up for you and that he knows he can be kicked out if he upsets you enough. You say you don't want to make a scene in front of the kids cos it will upset them but not having someone stand up for them will upset them more as they'll think he's being allowed to be mean and unfair. A child will be far less harmed by someone telling their abuser off in front of them than they will be by thinking nobody cares :) If they see and hear you telling him off in defence of them they will be much more likely to tell you if he hurts them! [Solo]
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I heard this one before "A man who knows not that he knows not is a fool". So sad this guy seems to knows not that he has a problem, "Hey, everything is NOT under control dude!" :) Noone can hurt my Grandma Xannie! I will pray for you, Connie, and the kids..luv, (=^_^=) [nda]
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2001-05-19 22:53:38 |
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I've just read the last 6 or 8 pages... and it sounds to me like your letting Chance tell you what to do? Chance, your daughters b/f, is he the father of Matthew and Mickey? Is his name on the birth certificate as the father? Does Connie actually love him?
I agree with Solo about the car problem, but add that he's a selfish bastard for letting Connie drive his car when he's the fukwit that bought it! And as for you letting him tell you to go to your room... *mouth drops open* I can't believe it... I got soooooo pissed off when my big brother once told me to go to my room that we had a screaming match and he ended up winning cos he was bigger.... but he apologised later and never EVER did it again... I don't think he thought it was worth the hassle... I just can't believe you would let him get away with telling YOU, a grown woman, the MOTHER of his g/f, to go to your room. If you don't tell him NOW that you don't CARE about what he thinks you should do, YOUR not his child, then you never will and he'll start treating you more like a child than as an equal.
And the house... you mentioned that they paid a deposit on your house? Have they bought it? Are they buying it? Are they paying deposits regularly? Whats the deal with that, what kind of situation are you in? Its in their name? So does that mean they have bought it from you completely? *starts chewing nails worriedly*
As for your feeling, instinct, that he WILL do something..... ask your daughter if she feels the same, because if you feel that will happen, then you both should do something to PREVENT it happening, rather than waiting for it to happen and have him damage you, Connie or the kids! *hugs* *hugs* Stop letting him walk all over you, otherwise he'll start treating you like carpet! [Sprite]
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2001-05-19 04:31:53 |
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People like that have no reason to want to change. Something bad has to happen first. Something that will put him in jail! *hint* ;) ~~ [sirreal785]
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2001-05-18 05:56:49 |
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I guess the best way to understand it is to say the power he is tasting over you, your daughter and the kids is like a drug and the more of it he gets the more he will need. The more he needs it the more dangerous he will be just like addicts of other drugs. At first they are reasonable people in their efforts to get the drug but in the end they rob, kill etc to get it. Even going to your room when ordered is feeding his addiction to power and control. (More comforting, strengthening hugs) [Solo]
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2001-05-18 01:45:35 |
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I know this is a really tough situation for you but the stronger you can be the better because men like that not only feed on weakness it makes them get worse! Try and screw up the courage to ask for your car back. He'll try and order you around just like he orders you to your room but tell him if he doesn't hand over the car keys you will be able to charge him with theft and you will. His power is only as strong as your fear and weakness. I can't say he definately won't hurt you but I suspect he won't because he won't feel he "owns" you like he feels he owns your daughter and grandkids so he's likely to be less prepared to commit crimes against you than he would be with them. He also knows you don't love him so he won't be able to sucker you into dropping any charges you might make. Have you called around to try and find domestic violence agencies that might be able to help you? If he is ordering you to your room that alone is DV! I really feel for you and I know you don't feel up to this struggle but it's fight now or fight and even harder battle later. The longer he gets away with this behaviour the more aggressive, controlling, and dangerous he will become and the harder it will be to do anything about it in the end. (HUGS) [Solo]
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There are a couple of possibilities here Xanadu. If he is going because he recognises he has a problem and he is open and honest with the counsellor then therapy SHOULD include anger management because this man has not learned any way to handle frustration, fear, etc except by getting angry and going off. He needs to learn what his parents never taught him - other ways to deal with problems. If he goes to counselling under pressure and hides some or all of the truth he will come home and say the counsellor said he's just fine and doesn't need anger management! You will then think it's all in your head and be tempted to back off or you will think therapy is worthless. If he comes home and says his therapist says there's nothing wrong with anything he does you can rest assured he has not been honest with him/her! He DEFINATELY needs anger management but the counsellor can give him that without doing an actual course I guess. Be wary - if your threat has had an effect he just MIGHT be doing this to get you off his back so be wary of any claim he makes if it doesn't fit with what I have said :) [Solo]
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hello grandma Xanny, miss you. it's been a long time. who's this Chance? whoever he is, please dont let him hurt you anymore ok? luv, (=^_^=) [nda]
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My god Xan, I hope everything falls into place for you. You, my friend, need a break from all this. ~~ [sirreal785]
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ooops LOL ment to push spell check [Xanadu]
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2001-05-15 05:04:30 |
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One of the best cures for depression is action and I'm so glad to see you're trying to sort this out even though it's your daughter who should be doing all this. Just remember you are stronger than you think and he is weaker than he thinks. If he were as strong as he thinks he wouldn't need to use anger to control people! (hugs) [Solo]
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I guess there's more money up north, because anything like that is based on a sliding scale according to income. Hey, check in to it. Good luck, dear. ~~ [sirreal785]
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What do you think would happen if you threatened to report both of them? Would things get worse or would it make them be more carefull? [Solo]
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~hugs~ [sweet peas]
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2001-05-14 04:01:52 |
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You are laying a little bit too much responsibities at your feet. You sound so confused! Hey, you still got my addy? Let's talk. I want to help you. ~~ [sirreal785]
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Hey friend, I am back! Thanks for your love and support! LOVE YOU FRIEND and you are my friend even though we are miles apart. You will never lose my friendship with you, NEVER!!!! Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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Try and force yourself to get out of the house at least once in a while. Staying with all that tension and worry won't help your depression one little bit. Besides, exercise releases "happy chemicals" in the brain :) Natural ones. [Solo]
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2001-05-09 11:19:06 |
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stopped by to say hi..... [sweet peas]
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2001-05-09 00:15:08 |
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Didn't you say that you had to miss a few days? Maybe that's why. Or, if you get generic, make sure you use the same generic brand! Some generics can be as much as 30% weaker! Good luck! [sirreal785]
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2001-05-08 14:44:25 |
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stopped by to say hi....! Thank you for your comment in my diary.. ~hugs~ [sweet peas]
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2001-05-07 02:14:59 |
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http://www.picturetrail.com/gallery /view?p=6&uid=131829&I [Xanadu]
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2001-05-06 21:05:28 |
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2001-05-06 21:05:04 |
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Xan, I lost your page addy when my computer crashed. Please let me have it again. I'd love to check out your work. Paxil stays in your system for quite a long time, so you shouldn't have any problems. ~peace~ [sirreal785]
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2001-05-06 18:45:18 |
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2001-05-03 08:35:32 |
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It hurts me more to not care. It's worth the pain! Don't let this sick world turn you into one of them... [sirreal785]
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2001-05-03 00:46:49 |
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It's always hard letting go of people you love...! sending you a bigggg hug.....~smile~ [sweet peas]
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2001-05-03 00:40:34 |
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sending you much love..! ~hugs~ [sweet peas]
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2001-05-02 10:02:47 |
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(Hugs) Keep trying and something will turn up. [Solo]
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2001-05-02 01:02:59 |
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Try looking farther away for roomates/other programs.. your local library or bookstore may carry out of town papers. [QueensOwnTalia]
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2001-05-01 09:49:48 |
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HUGS HUGS HUGS Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-05-01 09:19:19 |
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hey you, my thoughts and prayers are with you praying the clouds hanging over you go away soon!! hang in there.... [her]
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2001-05-01 07:47:19 |
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I'm so glad to here from you again. Sorry things aren't going well at the moment. I wish I could think of something! I'm sure you've been racking your brain out. Damn! I'll think about this today, any suggestions I come up with, I'll e-mail you. ~warmth~ [sirreal785]
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2001-05-01 05:33:30 |
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Hey friend, You need to write you are letting the depression get the better of you. I care Missy Molly. Get up and type everyday even if its I'm still here!!! Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-05-01 00:57:28 |
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We're watching you. [Thought Police]
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2001-04-30 15:11:13 |
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sending you a hug...... [sweet peas]
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2001-04-30 00:31:10 |
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I KNOW YOU LOVE YOUR DAUGHTER very much, but this is tearing YOU apart. You have to take care of YOU first. If you are not there mentally{HEALTHLY} how can you help her. Take care of you first, if not you are going to be in the hospital {MENTAL HEALTH FLOOR}, than she will have to stand up and take action. Sorry I sound so mean, it is I care for you and see you hurting. Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-28 13:13:32 |
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Sirreal is right - all you can do is let her know you're there for her but, if you don't take care of yourself, you won't have the strength to be there for her so take care of yourself (Hugs) [Solo]
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2001-04-28 01:34:31 |
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remember xan, you can't control people or situations. You have to let go of the illusion that you have any power over what others do, even when we know it's wrong. And when it's our kids, we can give advice and love them, but we can't make their decisions or live their lives. Sure it hurts, but that's reality. ~hugs~ dave [sirreal785]
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2001-04-28 01:20:44 |
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We're watching you. [Thought Police]
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2001-04-27 18:19:20 |
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Friend, I have no answers but I do have TWO good arms and they are around you right now. HUGS HUGS HUGS Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-27 14:05:32 |
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I think that is an excellent idea - get out as soon as you can! You don't need this stress and your daughter is grown so let her handle her own life where you don't have to watch helplessly! I don't know how you can do it but I think it's the best thing you can do for yourself right now. [Solo]
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2001-04-27 08:45:47 |
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I pray to gosh or whoever that you can find a way out! Check out section 8, or some kind of subsidized housing. Thinking of you ~peace~ [sirreal785]
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Friend, Be careful about mixing herbs{weightloss pills} and antidepressants, they can kill you. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-25 14:53:27 |
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I have written an anger management handbook that I use with my clients. I could email you a copy if you think he would read it. [Solo]
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2001-04-24 23:04:35 |
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thank you for the info... ~smile~ [sweet peas]
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Watch out for herbal diet supplements. They are not moderated by the FDA and can be VERY VERY dangerous. There is a nother product called stacker 2 that has been linked to strokes/death cause of one of the ingredients. I forget the ingredient it was.. you might want to have the Metabolife checked out by a doctor just to be sure its safe. [QueensOwnTalia]
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Domestic Violence is not taken lightly in any state. In Florida, you can be charged with DV for yelling! You might want to reconsider getting the authorities involved. They will try to help with court ordered treatment and other things before the just lock him up. It's your call Xan, but remember, anger of this type usually gets worse and someone just might get hurt. There are already emotional scars. But I am aware of your situation. What does your daughter think about this? [sirreal785]
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I have enjoyed reading your diary...please, call the cops...I know what a hard decision it is, as I have just had to make it myself, but in the ned, it is better for all involved. Especially since ther are children....I hope things get better...Take Care [Skamp]
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Metabolife sounds interesting - what is it and how does it word. I too would be interested in losing a few pounds. Could you please fill me in....ta...~smile~ [sweet peas]
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Solo hit the nail on the head! The only thing I could add is this: Domestic violenc is a crime in evry state! The next time it happens call 911. He will be arrested, and he deserves it. Plus the courts will give him the chance to go to anger management or jail. And probation will monitor him! Call the cops. If you want to do the best thing for you, your daughter, your grandchild and you. CALL THE COPS!!!! [sirreal785]
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2001-04-23 22:06:20 |
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I think Solo said it all.... ~smile~ [sweet peas]
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I don't know what the law is over where you are but here what he is doing is called "Domestic violence" and it is against the law! Hitting the wall etc is designed to make her afraid he will hit her and keep her under his control and so is threatening to get custody. You are right that the children should not be exposed to this as they will learn this is how you act when you get angry and, in years to come, they will be doing the same to their partners and to their mother! It's probably not worthwhile speaking to his mum as there's a very good chance he learned this behaviour from watching his dad do it to his mum and get away with it. Call some legal places and ask if it is classified as DV (domestic violence) in your state and if there are places set up to help your daughter. He won't have much hope of getting custody if you can prove he can't control his temper so start collecting evidence now - photos of things he's damaged, date/time/place and words of threats he has made and anything else that will prove to a judge that he is at the mercy of his temper and cannot, therefore, be trusted with the care of a child. At all costs keep what you are doing a secret as he will just increase his violence if he feels he's losing control of the situation since he has no idea how to handle it without violence. Make the plans, cover the possibilities and then act when he can't do anything to retaliate. Just be very careful as men like this don't get better they get more and more violent! [Solo]
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2001-04-23 01:06:43 |
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sweetheart! SirReal785@aol.com! ~love ya~ [sirreal785]
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2001-04-22 16:17:16 |
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Enjoyed reading it.....~smile~ [sweet peas]
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hi xany, you really filled in the blanks, huh? K, here's a Q 4 U! Why is it when I leave a comment in my fav list, it still say's new entry? This is fukking me up, and MDD don't respond.If you know how to fix it e-mail me at AOL! [sirreal785]
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2001-04-21 23:55:11 |
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I would never accept money for helping someone. I have tried to teach my children this very valuable lesson too. It is a great feeling to be able to help someone - and that in itself is reward enough....! Do you think that running into good people lately is all related to good Karma.....! ~smile~ [sweet peas]
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2001-04-21 02:40:27 |
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I too will not take money for helping people, whether it giving them money because their a few cents short or anything kind of help, when they give me money I say NO if you really want tpo pay me back did this help other people out withou taking pay. Hope all is alright with your car now. Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-20 11:42:58 |
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Good for you! I've been in a slump for meeting good people lately. I know there out there. I've met them before. Just lately everyone seems a bit pizzy. I am talking about real life, not cyber space:). While I'm in this short slump, I'll be the nice guy and try to help others. [sirreal785]
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2001-04-20 07:58:17 |
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Girlfriend I would never and I mean never judge you, my eating problem is worst than your smoking problem. I weighed 275 at the dr the other day but the last coouple of days I have binge on everything. 1 large pizza all by myself, 1 can of pringle chips, 7oz bag of choclate, 1 small order of nacho cheese french fries{in reality that is 4 small fries} all in a 5 hour time. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-19 18:28:20 |
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~hugs~ [sweet peas]
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2001-04-19 06:17:35 |
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The statistics show that the average person tries to give up smoking seven times before they actually succeed so don't let it get you down :) [Solo]
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2001-04-19 06:01:41 |
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Guess what? 21 yrs ago I quit smoking for 2 weeks! I was 25 or 26 yrs old at the time. I really tried (GOD I TRIED), so I know how hard it is. I don't think anyone can get down on you for trying, so don't you get down on yourself! Look, they say smoking can knock ten years off your life, but it's the last ten years. What am I gonna miss? Drooling on myself in a nursing home? Plus I said the till death do us part thing, so every cigarette is another 7 minutes off this crap. I'm just trying to cheer you up. Try again if you want. Or don't. I love ya anyways. [sirreal785]
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Your gonna scare yourself out of going. Those people are no different than anyone on the street, except they are getting help (with something they should teach in grade school! That's always a big beef of mine. Most the things I've learned in therapy are simple skills to cope with life. Why not teach it to kids in school. It's a no brainer. grrr) [sirreal785]
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Hey there friend, Glad you igned up for the AM class, I think it will help you and also get you out of the house. How are you doing on the smoking? I am not jugding just wondering. I have more bad habits than you to ever judge you, I care about you. Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-18 11:12:16 |
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Anger management might help but more in that you'll learn anger is nothing to fear cos it can be managed :) [Solo]
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2001-04-18 10:13:25 |
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I just stopped by to read your entry and say hi.. ~smile~ [sweet peas]
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2001-04-18 08:17:15 |
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I went to an anger management class here in town. It really helped me to get in touch with myself. I hope you do! I think anytime we get a chance to learn something about our selves we should do it. Knowledge can only help. ~peace~ [sirreal785]
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2001-04-18 00:11:19 |
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I think your chemical deprresion is better, now you got to adjust to not being depressed. Sadness is a much better term. It indicates a sense a temporary. Give it some time hun, your alright. ~dave~ [sirreal785]
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2001-04-17 18:27:13 |
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Hang in there friend! The Medical Card will pay for mental health treatment, go it helps. Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-17 13:54:16 |
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Part of the healing process involves grieving for all the things you lost or never got. Loss of safety, security, love, innocence, the loss of a childhood, loss of a loving mother and so on. It seems like you are in that grieving process so let it happen. It will pass once you have acknowledged what you lost or never had that you should have had and have grieved for and adjusted to those losses. (Hugs) [Solo]
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Sorry I got behind in reading your entries. About your Mum - did she ever ASK you to forgive her??? Even God himself does not promise to forgive us if we don't ASK for it! God himself requires repentance before forgiveness can be asked for so why should you forgive without being asked? God won't - why should you? Drop your anger at yourself for this OK? She owed you an apology but you didn't get it and life goes on. [Solo]
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2001-04-16 23:17:49 |
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hugs - ~smile~ [sweet peas]
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2001-04-16 09:10:46 |
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Hey friend, You and I could be twin sisters, sometimes it is so scary reading your diary, it is like you are reading my thoughts. When in the car wreck they said I recest about 2 1/2 years, the drs and nurse show me coming back in childhood, I was not awear of it and did not know till I read the reports after I got out of the hositpal, that hurt so much, but they said it was normal when you suffer a trauma like that. Happy easter Take care love to all [kayprice]
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That the funny thing about self improvement: you don't graduate! I read that book, and I wish I still had it, I'd love to read it again. Right now you've reminded my of "Getting Better" by the Beatles. 'I've got to admit it's getting better, getting so much better all the time' thanks Xanadu and ~peace and love~ [sirreal785]
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the roommate idea still seems like a good one, although you haven't come across a suitable roommate, yet. Could you place an ad, stating what you are looking for in a roommate?? Also.....sometimes people will pay you to live with someone as a companion -- maybe that wouldn't be too demanding, depending on what their challges are .......because you would just be living with one other person. Anyone else have any ideas?? [Gorjus Goddess]
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Xanadu......How many years ago did that happen?? That was indeed VERY traumatic! Would you feel safer if you moved to another town, away from that man?? Has he ever harrassed you or your daughter in any way since that rape incident occurred?? [Gorjus Goddess]
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Thank you so much! Those are most excellent. I even printed them out so that I could make use of some of those! : ) [Gorjus Goddess]
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I agree! It's the s**ts being sick! And it's the s**ts being lonely! Poor Xanadu.........wish there was something that I could do to help. : ( [Gorjus Goddess]
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Well.....the good side to strep is that the antibiotics usually start zapping the bacteria in just a day or two! Hang in there! : ) You are doing so great with all of the challenges that you have! [Gorjus Goddess]
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Gosh!! I don't think it's because you have some sort of emotional quirk that makes you want to stay in your bedroom!! I think ANYONE would want to do that if they had some couch potato guy watching the television blasting away with little toddlers screaming !! YIKES! As the Dixie Chicks would sing, "Cowboy, take me away! Fly this girl as high as you can into the wild blue!) Yes!! You've raised your child.......No one consulted you about making all these babies! It is NOT your responsibility.........except to love your grandbabies........That's it!! Time to live YOUR life.......... I agree wholeheartedly! Now.........about your married friend. How old are his kids that he is staying in the marriage for?? And I had a situation similar to that in the past........and I finally just asked myself, "How would I feel if I were the other woman in this situation? What would I want to happen if I were her?" And I decided that she had found this man two years before I had..........and that she hadn't done me any harm.......and I needed to bow out, since this man just couldn't seem to decide between the two of us! I sense that it would have turned out badly for me had I decided to try and "force" the issue in some way. And I know this about me...... I am a "high-maintenance" woman, emotionally. I do NOT do well trying to share a man with some other woman......No way! But that's me. Sometimes, Xanadu, there are those of us that don't do well taking other people's very good advice.......... We have to go out there anyway, and have the experience for ourselves.........and THEN we learn the lesson the hard way! LOL I have been guilty of that so many times. [Gorjus Goddess]
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Ice cream!! Yay! Xanadu.......I gotta tell ya --When I was in Texas, we stopped in at the Blue Bell Creamery, and they had an ice cream there called Banana Pudding. It was to die for! SLURP! Glad that you rewarded your smoke-free week!! I think you should give yourself LOTS of rewards!! Like.......every day! : ) [Gorjus Goddess]
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Right on! I think you are on the right track in your last paragraph........about trying a few things first, like the computer class..... and seeing how you handle being with groups of people. You might just LOVE it! Marianne Williamson (who I so admire) says that with a lot of people, it is not really the failure that we are fearful of..........we deep-down fear that we will be successful !! Think about it........... [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-04-15 10:52:20 |
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Attaway!! I really, really liked that part about following YOUR instincts! : ) You are amazing.......... [Gorjus Goddess]
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hey.....I kinda liked kayprice's idea about maybe just starting out with a little volunteering........and see how that goes?? Then, it wouldn't screw up your finances and everything........but it would be like kind of 'testing the waters.' And like you said.....this new doctor doesn't know everything that you have been through! Like my kids' grandma used to say when they were little and she would be taking them down a flight of steps: "Slow and easy........slow and easy.........." : ) [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-04-15 10:45:05 |
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May 1st?? Maybe you could give out May Baskets?? : ) [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-04-15 10:40:40 |
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I agree with sirreal, your entry is sad and beautiful. Sending you a hug.... ~smile~ [sweet peas]
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2001-04-15 09:34:31 |
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That is sad and beautiful... [sirreal785]
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2001-04-15 02:56:32 |
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Hi Xan, I know what you mean. If I think of a situation, my body will react to that situation. That my dear is the power of thought! Be here today. Put the bad thoughts on a shelf, and just be. Remember we are human beings, not human doings:) ~love and peace~ [sirreal785]
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About your previous entry - this man has broken his word to you once already and it was a serious breach because a child's health should not be played games with! He has shown you clearly that you can't rely on him so be careful! About the entry in evil_gurl's diary - I read it and she is upset but she is an adolescent and won't take kindly to me just barging into her diary when she has never asked me to. She is also not listening to anyone else's comments so she won't listen to mine. Please be careful when you read other people's diaries that you don't assume they feel exactly the way that you would feel. [Solo]
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Hey friend, What is going on hon? I think you need to type about it, you are with friends and family, we love you. WE need you and I know I do. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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yes it is... otherwise who would deliver the hugs that you deliver the way you do? :0) hang in there.... its a great way to vent.. its healthy therapy... [her]
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Don't leave me now;)!!! [sirreal785]
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2001-04-14 09:06:02 |
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I found out today that the cops are not allowed to use the slim jims anymore because they were getting sued for breaking the doors, since today there is lots in them to break, but it is less expensive to break the glass. [Xanadu]
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I'm glad Grandma Liz and Mikaila are okay ... ~smile~ [sweet peas]
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2001-04-14 00:55:42 |
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What a repulsive story! Cops here used to be allowed to break into a car for owners, but not now! It's really very easy if you have the right tool (they do). HHHmmm...I wonder if the worse would have happened, would the cop be responsible? ~peace xan~ [sirreal785]
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2001-04-14 00:45:56 |
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Hey friend, does FL have a rent control apts., they usually go by your income. Check also the senior citizens apts, if you are disabile they will let you live there nomatter your age. Keep up the good work and I do mean GOOD WORK. Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-13 15:27:02 |
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Xan, there is too much politics involved in this shit. No one knows about the extreme power these agencies have (power=corruption), cops can't get away with half the crap! They need to be exposed! I'm out of the system now, if I weren't I'd be scared....if you have any ideals about stopping this bullshit, e-mail me SirReal@aol.com. If I can help you in any way, let me know. ~love to all~ dave [sirreal785]
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2001-04-13 01:28:50 |
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I would have used the word kill so don't fret over that! I would have wanted to hunt him down and kill him slowly and painfully and I am not ashamed of that so don't you be! I am a gentle person too but mess with my kids and I'll make a mother lion look like a tame pussycat! As for doing something for me - you are letting me pass on what I know and accepting it in the spirit in which it is meant rather than thinking I'm interfering or being a know-all :) Thank you :) [Solo]
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I am not really a bad person, I would never think of killing anyone, this man did bring some part of me out that I did not know I had in me. I am a gental person. I am thinking maybe I should not have used that word. [Xanadu]
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2001-04-13 00:56:38 |
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I had looked for him for a few months, because I was going to kill him, I really felt that I could and I was strong enough, since then I have been becoming weeker. I over heard the police say what road he lived on and it was near the woods. I spent hours sitting on that road looking for someone who fit the description of him. I beleived I was strong enough to kill him. [Xanadu]
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2001-04-13 00:27:45 |
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Hold your head up high and pretend you are strong and confident when you go out. Studies have shown attackers search for someone who looks too frightened, too young, too old or too disabled to fight. The rape was not meant for you. My guess is your daughter was too frightened to hear what he really said or if he did say your name it was a coincidence or if it was no coincidence then it was someone whose name she should have been able to tell you. I think she imagined she heard him say your name because all she could think of at the time was you - disobeying you, wishing she was at home with you, wondering if she would ever see you again. Memory, vision and hearing are all distorted in times of great stress such as having a knife at your throat! Don't be afraid of this man. If it were me I would hope he DOES attack me because then I would be able to get him for what he did to my daughter! [Solo]
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2001-04-13 00:09:43 |
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I don't know where your from, but I've had my brushes with "child protection". It's the new gestapo! When I moved back from Florida, I didn;t have a place to stay. They gave me one month, with promises of financial help, to get a place. We did. They didn't. They kept them for 2 years! They were sexually and bodily abused. The people involved were quickly acquitted, and when we went on our own to a lawyer, the trial transcripts were erased! The newspaper wouldn't get involved! The doctors didn't testify, and the pictures were not shown to the jury. This makes me so frustrated I could scream! Now the oldest has died, and I'm stuck with the bills and the knowledge that CSB fooked his head up. Sorry, this should be an entry not a comment.. I'm sending love to you and the children. BEWARE! the gov is not what it appears to be. MONEY!!! [sirreal785]
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2001-04-12 21:14:49 |
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Seems like nobody gets through this life without getting scars, but you got beat up a good one there. I hope you come through all your woes to become a better, happier person. [sirreal785]
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2001-04-12 14:19:01 |
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I too hate being sick. You may also need to increase the Paxil. It happens and it is NOT your fault. Get well soon. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-12 10:09:19 |
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you sound sooooo sick...! If you cant sleep - don't worry - just lie down and rest.... and hopefully you'll feel better soon.... ~smile~ [sweet peas]
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2001-04-12 09:52:54 |
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hope you feel better soon...! ~smile~ [sweet peas]
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2001-04-12 02:07:43 |
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Do you believe in God? Maybe he was waiting for you to quit smoking before you got the strep! Hope you get well soon, your one of my favorite diarists. ~peace/love~ [sirreal785]
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2001-04-11 19:32:53 |
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Please get well soon! I love reading your diary, I don't want to miss a day. How long has it been your stop smokimg? DID I NOT TELL YOU THAT YOU COULD DO IT? Love you girlfriend. Keep up the good work. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-11 17:33:39 |
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I hope your not sick, xan. [sirreal785]
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2001-04-11 04:41:10 |
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Take it easy before making any big changes - wait until things settle down with the meds etc. If you move to be near this man you may be putting yourself under his influence too much and he may turn out to be not as nice as you thought. The true test of whether this man is a friend is whether he will introduce you to his wife and be honest about your friendship with him. If not he's a sleaze and heartbreak lies ahead so take it carefully because you don't need that sort of thing to tear you down again! [Solo]
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2001-04-10 09:12:07 |
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I just stopped by to read your entry and say hi... ~smile~ [sweet peas]
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2001-04-10 03:39:41 |
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I too have two grandsons. My daughter asked to move in with me and I simply said no. I too raised my kids and I'm not raising hers! My point is I feel you might move to cure the home problem, but thats not a good reason to move. The situation could follow you in your head. Tell them, in a firm way, that you love them but they have to move out. (as always, i could be wrong, just something for you to think about) ~SirReal~ [sirreal785]
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2001-04-09 18:21:25 |
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Glad you are doing so well, keep up the good work, remember it was only a few weeks ago you started feeling good please do not go to fast, I care. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-09 17:19:48 |
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Glad the paxil is working out for you. I think the tremors go away after a couple weeks or so. Let us know how it's going. Congrats to the smoke. 1 week. WOW ~dave [sirreal785]
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2001-04-08 18:33:32 |
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Girl friend YOU DID IT! I TOLD YOU you could do it. Keep up the good work! HUGS Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-08 11:34:13 |
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congrats on not smoking for a week - that's a great achievement... ~smile~ [sweet peas]
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2001-04-08 08:22:36 |
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congratulations on your 1 week smooking-free!! i'm happy for you and really proud of you.. and you're definitely right, you can stop smoking because you choose it to be that way.. luv, (=^_^=) [nda]
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2001-04-08 07:10:04 |
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Hi sweety! People don't understand a tooth ache, unless it's theirs. You do what you have to do. You know best. Keep truckin'! ~love~ dave [sirreal785]
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2001-04-08 01:22:23 |
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Hey Friend, DO WHAT IS BEST FOR YOU!! Proud of you friend. Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-07 14:19:24 |
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I'm glad you're feeling better, and I'm sooo proud of you..(=^_^=) [nda]
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2001-04-07 06:59:27 |
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I almost lost my grip yesterday
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Dear Friend, I know you could do it, KEEP UP THE GOOD WORKS MY FRIEND. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-06 15:42:42 |
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I'm so proud of you for still being a non-smoker! You are right - you know what's going to work and what isn't and you need a doctor who will help not make things worse! [Solo]
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2001-04-06 14:39:25 |
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The doctor is kooky! You hang on to yourself and SLOWDOWN! You know whats best for you. (as far as side effects with paxil, i can only speak for myself. they made me jumpy, nervous, anxious. but like i said, i have a friend thats doing great on them) ~love~ [sirreal785]
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2001-04-06 07:46:16 |
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Stop right there! Your doc is new - he doesn't really know what's best for you! One step at a time please and forget the idea of working just yet! First you get used to being a non-smoker and wait until you're sure the new meds have things fully under control. Then, when you feel ready to push yourself a little, you test the waters and do some volunteer work - maybe one day a week or something. Don't jump in too fast or you'll undo all the good progress you have made! You can think about a job much later when the idea will please not frighten you back to smoking. [Solo]
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2001-04-06 00:36:46 |
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Hey friend, Now slow down. That is only 1 dr opinion, you need to see your dr that know all about you. You are doing so good, please try to keep it up. You can do it, you already have. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-05 23:16:08 |
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if you're thinking of going back to work but you're in doubt, i think maybe you still can do it but later. coz what i know worklife is full of smokes and i'm afraid the temptation is too strong to be handled ^_^ p.s:i'm 19 dear xanadu, can i really call you grandma? coz i find you sooo caring just like my grandma at home..(how i miss her a lot..) [nda]
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2001-04-05 21:18:58 |
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Dear friend, Take it easy, Do NOT TRY AND DO TO MUCH AT ONCE. Do you relize all you have done in the past month!!! I MEAN IT!!! Slow down you are doing GREAT!!!!!! Just think about a job but do not do it right now, maybe voltueer somewhere first. YOU ARE DOING GREAT. I know you could do it and I know you CAN do it. HAVE FUN RIGHT NOW THAT'S AN ORDER, you derserve it. ONE DAY AT A TIME is what they say in OA.{OVEREATER} Take care have fun [kayprice]
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2001-04-05 16:29:01 |
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Dear friend, So I told you you could do it, I KNEW IT. I KNEW IT. I am so proud of you, YOU DID IT. YOU DID IT. Keep up the good work. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-05 11:13:10 |
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WOW. I just left a comment on the grandma entry, went back to my list, and there you were again! It's 5:35am. Wild huh? Glad the patch helps. Better than smoking right. I'm told like you said, the urge to light up goes away whether you smoke or not. [sirreal785]
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2001-04-05 05:40:15 |
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Congratulations, you are now a non-smoker not an ex-smoker who is trying to give them up. I quit 11 years ago, and food DOES get it's taste back [Poddy]
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2001-04-05 05:39:39 |
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I agree. The next time he calls grandma with a name, just say sweety - you can just call me grandma. (I to have a grandson, 2 actually, and I don't want to be anything but grandpa. The other can't talk yet:)) [sirreal785]
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2001-04-05 05:35:39 |
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You just remind Micky, and his sister when the time comes, that you are grandma and she is grandma liz :) [Solo]
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2001-04-05 02:58:16 |
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I have always been called Grandma
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may I call you Grandma? ^_^ [nda]
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2001-04-04 23:39:35 |
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Okay, folks.......we can't have her lighting up a cigarette. Help her out here. Since I'm not a grandma, my suggestions are probably not going to be that helpful, but, Well.......let's see.........Do you like any of the "grandma" variations that are out there?? Like.......umm..... I dunno............"mamaw" ...............or "grammie"............or ummm......... "nana"................??? Grandmas are so special! I remember my Grandma Pearl.......when I used to stay at her house, I liked to pull this one trick on her: I would yell from the other room,"G-r-a-n-d-m-a....." and she would say, "W-h-a-t?" And I would reply, "N-o-t-h-i-n-g!" LOL I thought I was soooo tricky! And being the good grandma that she was, she would laugh and say how I fooled her! yeah, right ..........Like she didn't catch on after the 2nd time that I pulled that one! : ) [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-04-04 19:50:27 |
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Great song! yikes......but I can't think who sings it -- but he has a great, kinda gravelly voice! : ) I'm glad you're still enjoying the light and fluffy feeling.........which reminds me of a one-liner by some comedienne........"I'm not fat........I'm just fluffy!" LOL Congratulations to you on still being smoke-free! Way to do it!! [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-04-04 19:27:48 |
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My guess is that your body is in turmoil over you not smoking........... and it's affecting your sleep........and your dreams......and probably everything!! I'm sure it won't be much longer until things start to get a little better..... : ) [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-04-04 07:31:17 |
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after 3 days, there will come 4th, 5th, 6th,..forever. u can do everything u want, even the most difficult thing in the world, if u stick to it a lil bit longer ^_^ [nda]
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2001-04-04 02:50:02 |
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Congratulations! You are doing so much better than I would! [Solo]
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2001-04-04 02:28:01 |
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i'm here to support your 'battle', go for it! ^_^ [nda]
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2001-04-04 01:33:53 |
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stopped by to see your words, sounds like all is well. Please let us/me know how the paxil works out. I would like to try it again, I just couldn't get by the 2 weeks of side effects. Keep on! [sirreal785]
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2001-04-04 00:45:21 |
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You are doing well! One day at a time girl :) [Solo]
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2001-04-04 00:30:07 |
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Dear friend, It is not cheating if you use the patches, it is a help. Is it cheating if I use my cane to help me get around? Keep on doing the good work, Please try not to smoke again, You are doing so great. I know you can do it. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-03 21:59:38 |
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See friend I know you could do it. You are stronger than you think. Please keep up the good work. You have a lot of people here rooting for you. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-03 11:20:02 |
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well............hey............Take heart! If the cravings get too bad, you can always go and visit "Adam's" diary and take his survey!! LOL!! [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-04-03 10:51:06 |
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I did not buy my brand I bought what I thaught would be the worst [Xanadu]
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2001-04-03 10:26:47 |
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I'll just add my voice to the chorus. There was a guy that I used to date who had real good luck with the patches, too! It scared me, though, when I read that you bought the pack of cigarettes, ...That's like me if I would bring Snicker's bars into my house!! Those darned things would keep calling out my name until I came and ate them!! [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-04-03 10:15:28 |
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c'mon dear, i believe in u. i believe u can do it all without smoke! [nda]
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2001-04-03 10:05:53 |
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All I know is my mom swears by them. Alot of it is a mental obsession too. But you can do it. If you relapse, try again. ~power is just a prayer away~ [sirreal785]
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2001-04-03 07:50:36 |
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The patches never worked for me. I tried..I tried.. Good luck anyhow...:) [Snuggles]
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2001-04-03 05:41:42 |
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My mother quit 6 years ago after her sister died from lung cancer. She still thinks about smoking, but not as much. She buys the fake plastic cigs to hold and "puff" on. Also "the patch" helped her get through the first 3 months. Maybe that's useful info, maybe not. Just pulling for you. ~best wishes~ [sirreal785]
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2001-04-02 22:09:45 |
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YAY!! 24 hours!! I'm super impressed!! Just take it one hour at a time.........or one minute at a time, if you have to! Any of us can do something (or NOT do something, as the case may be) for one minute!! : ) It is primarily a PHYSICAL addiction, (like I know so much about it -- I've never smoked.....lol )so don't get down on yourself if your body keeps telling you to go get cigarettes. If catnaps are helping......just keep taking those naps! And when you're online.......maybe go to some of the websites that have tips for smokers who are trying to stop.......I think that they could be VERY helpful! [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-04-02 19:04:10 |
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Girl, YOU CAN DO IT !!! I don't know why but I really feel you are going to do it this time, Take a nap, it always help me, but don't do it to many time because it will becaome a habit or you will use it as a crutch. I can see myself in you so much it is scary. We will whip this world. Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-02 18:39:03 |
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Dont have any smokes in ur site it might help... [evil_gurl]
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2001-04-02 15:48:17 |
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You can do it girl!!!! Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-02 11:46:58 |
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Xanadu........are you on AOL?? I have an online friend who just quit his cigarettes on Wednesday --Would it be helpful for you to chat with someone else who is trying to stop?? : ) Let me know....... [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-04-01 23:38:52 |
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I wish you luck. Wish I had the ambition to at least try to quit. (seen too many smoke related deaths) GOOD LUCK!! ~dave~ [sirreal785]
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2001-04-01 23:27:32 |
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you are doing a great thing... hang in there.. you have everything to gain!!! [her]
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2001-04-01 22:05:16 |
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Friend, I am so glad you are great. I remember the waiting for the pills to work, they didn't so you have to start on a new pill, wait 6 weeks, it didn't work, so another new pill, by then you are so depressed from THAT, that the real depression has taken even greater hold on you. I AM SO GLAD YOU HUNG IN THERE, see you are even stronger than you think. I have found my family dr does not know much about antidepressants so I also go to a shrink. At first I felt bad, dumb, crazy, but he has helped me so much I do not care what people thinks. It does feel good to be living, and have a life back. My sister will say I feel so depress today, I say no that is boredom or whatever, DEPRESSION is totaly different. Keep up the good work. Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-04-01 13:27:12 |
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gosh..... I just can't be of much help on this drug topic! I dislike drugs! I don't even like taking vitamins! LOL And can you believe the person who is typing this used to do her fair share of weed and LSD and hashish and mushrooms.........etc. etc.?? LOL But that was a reeeeally long time ago, and I was trying to figure out life and God and the Universe and all of that deep stuff! LOL BUT -- with that said, it sure is nice to have pharmaceuticals out there for when we do find ourselves in a bad place, either mentally or physically, so that we may avail ourselves of them!! [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-04-01 08:33:20 |
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(((HUGS))) [Solo]
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2001-04-01 00:10:33 |
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Relying on the VA (who change doctors atleast once a year) I am still going through the same thing. I think I've tried every anti-depressant there is! My problem is anxiety related. Don't let me be a negative influence on you, but Paxil didn't help me. It was just like prozac. But everybody is different. Good luck! I hope it helps you (I have a friend who's been on it over a year, and he swears by it) ~peace~ [sirreal785]
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2001-04-01 00:03:38 |
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friend, if you are on the medical card they will pay to have them pulled. I did because all shifted and was missing from carwreck. they will not pay for denture. Your friend has had to see them or a least feel them, the unevenness, if he the one the teeth will not matter, he sounds like he has a good heart, maybe that comment in his diary was a way of getting you to open up about that. I don't know, I only care for you. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-03-31 20:15:25 |
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okay.....so I'm still trying to get a clear picture. If you have dentures up on top, then I'm thinking your teeth probably look pretty good!............unless you got wooden ones like George Washington! :) And YOU shouldn't be ashamed!! Shame on those god-blamed parents of yours for neglecting their children's most basic health needs!!! HRRMMPPPH!! Annnnnyway........... your comments made me think of things to write in my diary. :) [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-31 16:41:16 |
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Beleive me when you grow up ashamed of your teeth you do learn to hide it and being depressed and never smiling helps [Xanadu]
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2001-03-31 15:22:51 |
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okay, Xanadu, you lost me on this one.....??? How can you spend time with a person and be intimate with a person, and never have them see your teeth??? I don't get it............ [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-31 15:10:21 |
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Hey friend, YOU CAN DO IT!!!!! Today is a NEW beginning but so is tomorrow. Have faith in yourself. Remember the little train, he said I think I can, I think I can, I think I can, AND HE DID. REMEMBER HE HAD HILLS AND VALLEY TO, TO GO THROUGH. He did it so can you. I KNOW IT!!!!! Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-03-31 14:51:18 |
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It's so cool that the "experts" are finding out that depression is a chemical imbalance, and finding medication that helps. I can't tell you the many people I know that have been helped by medicine, including me. But there are plenty of dipsticks out there that say get off the meds! They don't know! All I can say is...keep on.~Sir Real~ [sirreal785]
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2001-03-31 04:55:07 |
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I went to jail for 3 months, a non smoking jail! I really didn't miss them. Odd huh? Then when I got out, the first thing I did was smoke! I'm hooked, but I know a lot of "hooked" people that quit! My bestest friend in the world said to me,"It's all in you're head"...I thought about it, lit up, and I am a smoker!!!!!!!!! Dam if any kids read this, you are an arse hole to start smokig!! [sirreal785]
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2001-03-31 01:48:47 |
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I agree with kayprice - check with your doctor cos there's a lot of people who offer knowledgable advice even when they don't know diddly squat. The druggist MIGHT be right but he could be wrong too. [Solo]
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2001-03-31 00:58:28 |
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Hey friend, WEllbrutin is not a Maoi inh., I am on Wellbrutin and Prazoc and xanax. I dont mean to doubt you, maybe i am wrong but I have been on all these pills, for about 10 years now. Love you friend. DO not rush your self. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-03-30 21:49:15 |
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oooh..........sorry about the cold! that's no fun. But I don't remember you mentioning this back problem before.....What's that all about? Annnnyway.....when you feel like you are ready to attack the smoking habit.......I think the patches are a good route to take. I had an ex-boyfriend who quit smoking with the patches. I'm glad that I was a good influence on somebody! :) [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-30 21:43:09 |
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Girlfriend, You are doing so much better Please do not RUSH it. Enjoy your life!! Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-03-30 11:29:38 |
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I'd love to have never started. Once a smoker always a smoker, even when I quit, I was an x-smoker. Then I figured what the hell, they say smoking cuts ten years off your life. But it's the LAST ten years, what am I going to miss? Drooling on myself? Just trying to lighten things up. I got the utmost for respect smokers who can quit. Good luck (looking at nicotine stains on my fingers~wondering what my lungs must look like!) [sirreal785]
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FOUR packs left
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the doctor asked me about giving up smoking last time I was there, and I said we had to take care of this other thing first and I guess we did :-) so he may have some idea. I will ask about the Ziban you are the second person who mentioned it to me [Xanadu]
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2001-03-30 00:01:40 |
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Today is a dreary day
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I am really having a lot of fun with this happiness, and you are right it is spreading to my daughter and grand children :-) [Xanadu]
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2001-03-29 23:06:00 |
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FOUR packs left
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There's a drug that's just hit the markets here and people everywhere are swearing by it as a cure for smoking. It's called zyban I think and they say you just stop wanting a smoke. I haven't tried it but I'm thinking about it. Maybe you could ask your doc? [Solo]
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2001-03-29 23:03:48 |
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Today is a dreary day
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LOL I can relate to that but the contact not being there was a corker *G* [Solo]
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2001-03-29 22:56:36 |
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Today is a dreary day
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Isn't it fun when we amuse ourselves with our little follies? LOL Hope your grandson starts feeling better.... [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 22:22:08 |
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I just love this feeling
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no, no, no.......Don't feel guilty about being happy! It is contagious, you know! You are going to make the people around you feel wonderful....spreading your bright light all over the place. : ) And just a thought........be sure to write down the questions that you have that you want to ask the doctor. That way you won't forget them when you are with him. (her?) [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 22:19:19 |
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Strange emotions
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LOL..........well then, I guess all of us are dreaming right along with you! :) [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 22:15:30 |
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I got sad today
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hey......I think it's all right that you "fudged" a little bit and just said that you didn't have it. Sometimes, I don't like "confrontations" either. If you feel uncomfortable loaning him the money, then you are perfectly justified in not doing it anymore. "The great and powerful Oz has spoken!" LOL Just kidding........... [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 22:13:58 |
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UUUgggggggg
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hey, you know what? If the worst thing that happened is that you have to cut up one of your pills, and you had a sinus headache......that's really not too bad of a day! :) [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 22:11:17 |
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I think I died and went to heaven
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YIPPEE! Well, readers.........we all know that Xanadu is a "certified woman" now. She loves to shop! LOL [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 22:08:59 |
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I am feeling happy today :-)
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This is exciting news about how you are feeling positive effects from the drug! :) I really, REALLY liked your idea about wanting to go camping and having a marshmallow roast! That is one of my favorite things to do, too. Where I live, to me it isn't autumn, unless you go into the cool night air out in the country, and have a wiener and marshmallow roast! :) Glad to hear that you have a relationship with your brother., too. :) M&M's.........LOL, naturally I first thought you were talking about candy -- But you were talking about your grandbabies! :) How fun for you to get to spend so much time with them. AND.............Xanadu, did I actually see a "LOL" in your diary?!? You are laughing! How wonderful!! :D [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 22:05:39 |
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dumped my ashes in the water and let my balloons
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yikes...........I was hoping you would tell us how it "felt" when you spread the ashes and released your balloons........... Did you feel nothing? Did your feel neutral about it? Did it feel good? :) Yeah.......that's really too bad about the beach thing -- Had they been having trouble with drug dealers or something?? I totally agree that nighttime on the beach can be quite wonderful! But you know what? -- I thought that was so cool that you tried to sneak onto the beach anyway!! Good for you!! And when Plan A didn't work.......then you went to Plan B. Way to go! :) [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 21:58:40 |
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Wow
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yeah.....I have days like that, too. And I guess the best thing is just to acknowledge them for what they are.........and not to dwell on then.....but like you said........to just look forward to tomorrow! :) [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 21:53:45 |
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Space Shuttle Discovery
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gosh.......pretty exciting stuff happening in your neck of the woods... lol [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 21:51:53 |
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Xanadu, you are full of wonderful ideas!! Like "kayprice" said.........just take them one at at time........don't get overwhelmed......but most of all, enjoy the light! :) I feel so honored that you are letting us in on this transformation.......... [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 21:50:18 |
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Letting Go !
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Your daughter sounds very special! I think it's neat that you see her as a blessing. That's how I feel about my two, also. :) I LOVE your idea about writing all this stuff out......and then burning the pages. I also have been known to burn stuff in my fireplace. I think it is a wonderful expression of letting go and of releasing. (I have been known to do this with letters and cards from ex-boyfriends! If I have broken up with someone, I don't like having the 'negative energy' around my home.) What an awesome idea about taking the ashes to where the ashes of your parents were released...........and the idea about the balloons is an excellent one. As you may have read in my diary, I am a great one for having ceremonies. I can't wait to keep reading and see how this felt for you when you actually carried it out. I hope the tears and emotions flow right out of you........... "KAYPRICE," I think we are seeing Xanadu starting to love herself!! :) YAY!! [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 21:46:33 |
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tearing down my brick wall 3
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GASP!! YOU disgraced them???? I DON'T THINK SO!!! YOUR PARENTS are the disgraceful people in your family. THEY are the black sheep of the family. Boy, did they ever get that turned around! jiminey chritmas! I am aghast that they would say such a thing or think such a thing! They abused you, and then they wondered why you would have a problem. Please forgive me for saying this..........but your parents were scum. That's not very kind...... but GAWD!, they piss me off!! Aren't you totally MAD at them?? Have you ever just screamed your head off about this..........gotten all the anger out about how they were toxic parents?? If not..........I would highly suggest this....you need to get it all out..........and then watch those bricks come tumbling down....... And for crying out loud, you are not the first woman to have a baby out of wedlock, and you certainly won't be the last! Stop kicking yourself over this one! And I agree with "SOLO"............I wouldn't give you 2 cents for those people who were so ugly to you when you were pregnant........ And as Forrest Gump would say, "And that's all I have to say about that........." [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 21:35:01 |
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Today is a dreary day
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Sorry about Matthew. HUGS to you lady. Take care Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-03-29 21:28:31 |
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tearing down my brick wall 2
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geez, louise........I can't believe nobody commented on this page! It is filled with such pain!! No wonder you needed to build that wall ! Your 'mother', and I use that term quite loosely, was your mother only in the biological sense! Sounds to me like she had not one shred of nurturing in her, whatsoever! Holy moly......any idea how she came about being such a monster?? Did she have dreadful parents? Was the grandmother who protected you, was she your maternal grandmother?? And your "dad"..........ohmigoodness........ .Idon't even want to go there! I'm telling you.......they have brought some serious karma down upon themselves!! Annnnnnyway......to understate the obvious, you had 2 VERY unhealthy parents!! You have quite a challenge before you...........to break the chain.......and to become the first healthy person in your family!! What kind of shape are your brothers and sister in, BTW?? [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 21:21:46 |
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tearing down my brick wall
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I like your analogy about the brick wall! Yes.....it's time! It's probably PAST time to start tearing down those bricks. (Remember the Berlin Wall?) The wall served a purpose at one time.......it protected you.......but NOW...right here in the present, it is getting in your way! Yeah, baby...........you tear that sucker down! : ) [Gorjus Goddess]
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2001-03-29 21:05:40 |
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I just love this feeling
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You ARE sharing it! Don't feel guilty. Funny how we just don't let are selves feel good without trying to throw something negative into the blend. By the way I got the same exact comment from mr. chickenshat anonymous. I deleted it. goodluck. [sirreal785]
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2001-03-29 01:00:56 |
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Strange emotions
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Fantastic! I've felt the burden of deppression that feels like it will never lift, but not for along long time. There is a difference to depression and sadness... [sirreal785]
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2001-03-28 21:59:58 |
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I got sad today
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Along with feeling rested and good comes the strength to do things you want to do, including saying no, but all in good time :) [Solo]
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2001-03-28 04:03:18 |
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I got sad today
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When I met my wife, her brother used the hell out of her! Ten years into our 20yr marriage, I let him live with me, use my wife (his sister), and all the while I scratched my head and wondered why she kissed his azz. Tell him your his sister not his mom, and to quit taking advantage of you! That's what he's doing. [sirreal785]
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2001-03-27 23:02:57 |
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I think I died and went to heaven
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YOU GO GIRL!!!!! Please do not let this be a downer, if you start feeling depression again GO TO YOUR DR RIGHT AWAY, some times the meds. stop working as good as before, but they can ALWAYS increase the dose. It happen to me and I thought I was to blame to I share with my dr, he SAID some do fizzy out, but they try to increse the doses. IT IS NOT YOU, it is the meds. Stay strong. Take care love to all [kayprice]
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2001-03-27 12:47:03 |
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I think I died and went to heaven
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This is how life should be for you. This is the REAL you! Never forget that! Drugs work by changing the chemistry of the brain which, for some, allows structural changes that can result in a cure. For others the chemical imbalance in the brain will always need an "antidote". Just be aware that the body can adjust to the drug and make it less effective over time. If that happens don't assume failure - go back to the doc :) [Solo]
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2001-03-27 06:26:43 |
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I am feeling happy today :-)
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I'm so glad the new drug is helping :) [Solo]
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2001-03-25 00:59:44 |
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N/A
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Yes - don't overdo things or you might stress out but do get used to living without depression - it's a good way to live :) [Solo]
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2001-03-21 09:41:07 |
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Hey there friend, Glad you are feeling better, when you feel better you want to do more. Just don't try to do all at once, SLOW. Maybe go for a drive around your block, not far just out of the house. Take care, love to all [kayprice]
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2001-03-20 23:36:05 |
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Thanks for the hug... [EtherealMystery]
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2001-03-20 22:20:31 |
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you go girl!! :0) [her]
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2001-03-20 21:41:58 |
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Letting Go !
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Dear new friend, Sorry for what you have been through. The walls you put up was NEEDED very much at that time, you are a very good and special person, please start taking down the wall and let people in your life, I would love to be your friend, and with the people commenting on your diary CAN'T you see how great you are. Please let us love YOU till you can love yourself. Take care, Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-03-20 14:50:54 |
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Letting Go !
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When I can't think of anything to say that's worth saying I usually just leave a hug to let you know I'm here and I care :) (((HUG))) [Solo]
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2001-03-20 07:50:45 |
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tearing down my brick wall 3
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Those who are fastest to judge others have opinions not worth caring about has always been my belief. I'm lucky because I never really cared what people thought of me for being a single mum. [Solo]
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2001-03-19 23:48:51 |
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tearing down my brick wall
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you definetly haven't had it easy all your life :( but things will get better...i mean what hasn't did you in yet has made you stronger...and by ending your life would be for the easy way out...and if you have made it this far then there's definetly more room for better and bigger things -s- always be proud of yourself... P.S. thanks for commenting the movie is almost over -s- have a goodnight -s- -Branzon- [Manzys_Man]
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2001-03-19 02:11:01 |
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tearing down my brick wall
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i think he was trying to tell you that even though he was dieing a slow and painful death, it still was not punishment enough for what he did to you... you are a strong soul... and you have made it this far and will continue to grow stronger as time goes on... you can't go back and take away what has been done... but you can succeed ... i too was molested when i was young, not by my father but by my moms boyfriends ( who became her husbands) three different ones to be exact... probably why im so protective over my daughters to this day... don't let sadness rule your life... know you are better than that and deserve better than that and demand better than that.... i feel your pain... i live with your pain... but life is too short to let it control you... keep your chin up girly.... [her]
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2001-03-18 21:46:57 |
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I am so unsure of what to do
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Dear new Friend, Thanks for the comment. I too am disabled and live on ssi and ss, I still live at home to make ends meet, but a few other reasons too. I will go back and read your diary to find out more about you, if you like you might go back and read my diary. we could share the pain of being disable, and maybe help each other, only someone you has been through our problems knows the pain, as I can see the pain of some that write me I can not see exactly because I have not been there. Please do not think of kiling yourself i know it seems the east way out but I tried that and that fail, so it started a whole new kinds of problems. Take care, Love to all [kayprice]
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2001-03-18 16:25:18 |
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I have not been out of my house for a few years
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it's no problem at all -s- enjoy your evening too -s- -Branzon- [Manzys_Man]
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2001-03-17 18:18:09 |
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I have not been out of my house for a few years
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that's a real tough situation...and i think no matter what you do your leaving yourself in a vulnerable situation...i mean if you lose him...then obviously you be crushed...but if he leaves his wife...that could create problems too...knowing he was married and all...so i dunno what to say really :( i just wouldn't let myself get to involved too soon...or you will be crushed.... -Branzon- [Manzys_Man]
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2001-03-17 17:59:59 |
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Decisions
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how did you two meet? [her]
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